a post for myself, after reading others...

Sometimes, we tend to meddle with other people's lives so often than we take a closer look at our own lives. We are so caught up with other people's mistakes, that we judge them for being "wrong".. wrong in a different light... wrong in our own perspective. Or thinking the other way around how successful or happy they are, that we feel so envious that we judge them that they don't deserve where they are.

I am guilty of such, at times, when I always find myself looking at other people's lives.. looking or hearing them from afar -- even strangers at that. On how they talk to their companions, how they dress, the way they fix their hair, the things they talk about, on how they simply stand up on ground carrying only themselves. I tend to look at other people's lives on surface. I have been enjoying lurking around other people's business even if I really do not have anything to do with it. And I spend so much effort analyzing their lives and how they deal with it, even if it really is such a waste of time because they don't even know that I am scrutinizing it for them.

I hope the world will just keep moving with their own lives. Not meaning to say that we should care less about the rest of the world.. What I'm driving at is I hope we learn how to accept other people as they are. And being there, as what we are supposed to play in their lives -- a child, brother, sister, friend, colleague, companion.

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If at times a person has done you wrong, you have the all the right to feel furious, and express your anger. But do not nurture the pain because it will do you no good. Let God heal the wounds and let go of the darkness inside you. Do not let a negative feeling be the recipient of a negative action.

If at times you feel that a friend has done something wrong to another, do not put their fate on your anger. You have the right to get mad, but you do not have any reason to put into your hands the revenge to cover up for them. Console them, be there for them. Be positive to your friend. It doesn't necessarily mean that you have to do negative towards another to justify that you care for a friend.

If you are feeling envious that a person is successful, be happy for them. Rejoice with them. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, reach for your dream and be inspired that if somebody is able to step forward to their goal, believe that you can make it on your own.

If you feel sad about a person's situation, be there for them when they need you. Listen to their problems. They do not actually need advice, they just need someone to talk to. Unsolicited advice sometimes aggravate the problem, so just tell them that you will be there.

If you feel like the decisions you made put you in trouble, do not blame other people for it. Your actions always boil down to your own decision. No matter what people say, no justifications are needed because it's always you who have the last say.

I don't know why I am telling this. Maybe because I have had enough of meddling with other people's lives. I do not play a big part in them, but I always steer to keeping myself involved even if I don't have to. Then I end up now, thinking of my own life. How have I lived it. And how I have made decisions in my life that might be worth the time to think about instead of thinking about others. I have yet to deal with my own problems, and think about the decisions I have made. For those people, on the other hand, who are meddling with mine, then I'm telling you, you are wasting your time. I bet you have your own problems to deal with.. so deal with it!

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